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So it's rather a "classic" to connect with someone on a festival -- especially towards the end I suppose, as well as it can happen in a club, or whatever. All senses are heightened, we feel as most alive, and everything is blissful.

It's not like it never happened before; I even thought myself to have found "the one" there once, mindbogglingly magical as that encounter was. It did last and grow outside of Fusion, but nonetheless the bubble ended up sorely punctured some 6 months later or so. After that (too), for sure no illusions left.

Anyway, here we went again, and I was blessed with sharing a few very pleasant, rewarding & intimately close days with someone I meshed really well with.

We exchanged contact data, and expressed a hope to meet again within the year. Quite loose however, plus we don't even live in the same country (although the case also that other time). Ofc time always tells but, you who have experiences in this department:

How do you deal with, and sort out, whatever feelings are stirred under such circumstances?

Do you feed them, or instead attribute it all to the context and brush things off?

A few days is such a short time, and it's far too easy to paint things in pink in such a setting. Maybe whatever happens then almost per definition "must" be ephemereal? Yet the heartiness of our time together stayed with me.

Any input would be welcome.

I don't have a lot of constructive advice but I'm in the same boat right now and not dealing with those feelings particularly well. So uhm... at least know you're not alone

I think it's important to recognize that a connection was created under very special circumstances - special surrounding, special mood, special (non day-to-day) living style, maybe some substances. These circumstances can't and shouldn't be reproduced in day-to-day life.

But: While you and the other person/people were all part of these special circumstances, you didn't just get to know the circumstances, but also the character of the person, which probably will be the same under all circumstances. So you found somebody who you clicked with under the special circumstances. Now the question if it holds up in day-to-day life?

If I was in this situation I'd give it a chance, but wouldn't have my hopes up very much. I wouldn't try to use the common experience of fusion as a base for a (possible) future relationship, but as a fun way how we first met. After this first meeting now take the time to really know eachother, and you can find out if it works out, if your day-to-day lifes are compatible, if you want the same out of the relationship, the same relationship form/intensity etc. Maybe it's a match? Maybe not? Who knows, but why not try to find out?

fruity_snackball hat geschrieben: ↑Sa 5. Jul 2025, 10:53 I don't have a lot of constructive advice but I'm in the same boat right now and not dealing with those feelings particularly well. So uhm... at least know you're not alone

Aww, thanks, and sorry about that! Hope your (our) water clears soon enough.

irrelevant hat geschrieben: ↑Fr 4. Jul 2025, 21:46 So it's rather a "classic" to connect with someone on a festival -- especially towards the end I suppose, as well as it can happen in a club, or whatever. All senses are heightened, we feel as most alive, and everything is blissful.

It's not like it never happened before; I even thought myself to have found "the one" there once, mindbogglingly magical as that encounter was. It did last and grow outside of Fusion, but nonetheless the bubble ended up sorely punctured some 6 months later or so. After that (too), for sure no illusions left.

Anyway, here we went again, and I was blessed with sharing a few very pleasant, rewarding & intimately close days with someone I meshed really well with.

We exchanged contact data, and expressed a hope to meet again within the year. Quite loose however, plus we don't even live in the same country (although the case also that other time). Ofc time always tells but, you who have experiences in this department:

How do you deal with, and sort out, whatever feelings are stirred under such circumstances?

Do you feed them, or instead attribute it all to the context and brush things off?

A few days is such a short time, and it's far too easy to paint things in pink in such a setting. Maybe whatever happens then almost per definition "must" be ephemereal? Yet the heartiness of our time together stayed with me.

Any input would be welcome.

Feels! I find this hard too. I feel most myself on the dance floor (even sober) and this makes for very meaningful connections. The energy is raw, real, honest, curious. Managing how to carry these feelings back into the world outside of Fusion is so hard. My thoughts are that the same dilemma arises for everything I experience at Fusion, not just romance. Ultimately where I end up is that after the festival, I need to nurture the feelings and sense of self that led to this connection, rather than the romance itself. Then the rest will follow.

I hope you understand my English/ this translates ok! Thanks for sharing.

charno hat geschrieben: ↑Sa 5. Jul 2025, 12:21 I think it's important to recognize that a connection was created under very special circumstances - special surrounding, special mood, special (non day-to-day) living style, maybe some substances. These circumstances can't and shouldn't be reproduced in day-to-day life.

But: While you and the other person/people were all part of these special circumstances, you didn't just get to know the circumstances, but also the character of the person, which probably will be the same under all circumstances. So you found somebody who you clicked with under the special circumstances. Now the question if it holds up in day-to-day life?

If I was in this situation I'd give it a chance, but wouldn't have my hopes up very much. I wouldn't try to use the common experience of fusion as a base for a (possible) future relationship, but as a fun way how we first met. After this first meeting now take the time to really know eachother, and you can find out if it works out, if your day-to-day lifes are compatible, if you want the same out of the relationship, the same relationship form/intensity etc. Maybe it's a match? Maybe not? Who knows, but why not try to find out?

Thanks for your sound advice. Totally agree with the 1st passage, yet those circumstances (albeit mostly decently moderated; I don't think anyone wants to "live" an all-in Fusion 24/7/365) are something I need, and want, to be part of my potential shared life with someone. While spending time together, I even remembered an old friend, who went for a several month road trip in the US with her boyfriend eons ago. They married shortly after, rather than before (perhaps making the trip their honeymoon, f ex) as they saw it as sort of a compatibility test. If they could have a great time and stand each other closely road tripping for months (I think in a regular car) ... well, you get the point. That resonated with me.

Which, kind of, leads to your 2nd passage, and very relevant subsequent question.

Absolutely open to finding out what this may be or become, and assume it'll show onwards -- with distance and all -- how strong a pull there is between us, but also all else you mention. Another reminder not to be so impatient for answers ...

movingmybody hat geschrieben: ↑Sa 5. Jul 2025, 15:06
Feels! I find this hard too. I feel most myself on the dance floor (even sober) and this makes for very meaningful connections. The energy is raw, real, honest, curious. Managing how to carry these feelings back into the world outside of Fusion is so hard. My thoughts are that the same dilemma arises for everything I experience at Fusion, not just romance. Ultimately where I end up is that after the festival, I need to nurture the feelings and sense of self that led to this connection, rather than the romance itself. Then the rest will follow.

I hope you understand my English/ this translates ok! Thanks for sharing.

YES! Exactly. VERY well put, and great suggestion. It read beautifully -- thank you for this little pearl of wisdom.

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